First reaction- Sex. But in truth what has inspired the most intimate moments for us is deep, heartfelt, truthful communication and sharing of feelings. Try this one- “What about me have I never told you before and how do I feel sharing this with you?” You would think that after forty plus years of marriage I would know where Betty liked to be touched the most! However, after sharing on this question, I shockingly found out that her desire had nothing to do with the famous three point landings! I of course assumed all these years that she would like to be touched the same way I like to be touched. NOT SO!!!!
What really makes sharing these moments so intimate is that we/I experienced a tremendous freedom in knowing that Betty loves the “real” me and not just the person I want her to think I am! It was truly difficult for her to share this because she felt a tremendous fear that I would take it as criticism. That I would think there was something wrong with the first 40 years of loving her. It had just the opposite effect. I felt so humbled and privileged that she would love me enough to risk telling me something so amazingly sensitive and intimate. It made me love her even more!
What does intimacy mean to you in your relationship?
