It is so important to remind ourselves that we ARE a married couple. When we get into overwhelm in the nitty gritty day to day world, we easily can fall into routines, go through the motions, and operate like two ships passing in the night.
The best reminder we know to bring the spark of sexual delight back into our relationship is to Pray for Passion.
Ed- So Praying for Passion is not focused on praying for more sex necessarily. It is praying for an atmosphere of sexual delight. That is the biggest difference between living as a married couple and living as brother and sister. Sexual delight means knowing glances or winks, holding hands, hugs from behind, pats on the rear, playful teasing or any communication that you only have between the two of you. You will know you have achieved this when a stranger asks if you were just married and you can answer, as we did that, we have been married over 50 years!
Betty- What is “sexual delight”? First, imagine how it was when you were dating and recall your hunger for each other. You wanted to know each other’s history, values, likes and dislikes, everything! Second, even if your Love Language (5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman) is not Physical Touch, pretend it is! Don’t shy away from Public Displays of Affection (PDA’s) no matter what your children say! All those actions Ed shared often get us called – Cute!
“Our long-term vision of an ideal marriage is a worry-free love affair that supports us through any challenge we may face. It has us giving to people and being generous by sharing our insights with others. Most important, however, is that we must continually pray to God for a passion for each other that will inspire others to want what we have.”