Video Transcript:
Hey, we’re back again! As you can see, we’re back in our other centered relationship again. Well, we left you in our last blog when we were both in a kind of malaise, whatever that is. We were just really down in the dumps, and neither of us wanted to take the first step to get back together again.
What happened to change that? First was external, and the other was internal. Let me explain. The next day was Valentine’s Day. The external impetus of that day for lovers actually caught us off guard. Neither of us had gotten a card or had any kind of surprise for the other one.
So, that morning we decided that the best thing and the best Valentine gift we could give each other was to notice and point out everything good that the other did or said and affirm each other honestly whenever we could. We call that decision to love an internal change of heart.
As the day went by, we were laughing, joking, and truly having fun with it. Yes, we got back! So, what do you do when you aren’t sure how to make a decision to love? Oh, some ideas… Well, how about see better, listen better, smell better, feel better, touch better, care better, speak better, smile better? Oh yeah, all around be better.
Okay, but getting back to Valentine’s Day, we did notice that when we transformed from hardness of heart to being vulnerable, soft, and tender, that noticing even the slightest imperfection or fault seemed to magnify and felt more like a huge criticism. Like if I noticed a hair out of place and told Betty, or she noticed a crumb on my face after eating and told me, it instantly set us back instead of seeing it as taking care of each other.
I mean, that’s a lot better than when you’re not even looking at each other, of course. Anyway, we did make some decisions that could have helped. I decided that I could have just caressed Betty’s hair and made her think that I was just loving her. Yeah, and I could have just cupped Ed’s face in my hands and gotten rid of that crumb. Yeah, and we didn’t have to point out the imperfection, right? Yeah, I think that was really true. Little things can mean a lot.
Also, we’re gonna have next time, you won’t want to miss this – what sacred sexuality! Thank you.